This is the 'Marites' friend who whispers, "Uy, awayin mo na, 'di ka papatalo 'di ba?" It's the act of poking the bear, but you're convincing someone *else* to do the poking. It's adding fuel to the fire, convincing your workmate to send that spicy email to HR, or telling your sibling to confront your parents about their curfew.