This is the art of giving way, of letting go, of being the 'bigger person.' It's when you let your sibling have the last piece of chicken joy. It's when you let someone cut in line because they look more stressed than you. In love, 'pagpaparaya' is the ultimate hugot move: 'Mahal kita, pero mas sasaya ka sa kanya, kaya magpaparaya na ako.' (I love you, but you'll be happier with them, so I'll give way.) It's the theme song of every martyr in a Filipino movie.